Your Three Keys to Knowing You’re ‘Worthy’ to Accomplish Whatever You Want by Matt Anderson

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Worthiness Key 1: Tell yourself this: “I’ve worked really hard to get where I am today and it’s okay for me to experience ever-greater levels of success.”

Greg grew up poor in Poland and one day his parents put all their belongings in a car and moved to Germany. He did well in school there and ended up studying medicine. Now he is a plastic surgeon working on Harley Street, London’s most prestigious location for high-end physicians.

When I interviewed him in 2019 for my podcast, I asked him whether he had ever had any worthiness issues coming from such humble origins and growing up as an outsider. In his German-accented English he quickly shook his head and informed me: “Matt, I’ve worked my face off.” He then went on to tell me how even when he went on holiday, he would seek out well-known peers so he could observe their surgeries and learn from them.

The first time I ever talked to Scott he said: “Matt, my average current client is worth between $1-3m. I want to get that to $5m by the end of the year. Can you help me?”
Scott took consistent action to make this goal happen and within seven years his average client was worth $50m (no typo). When I asked him whether he had ever had any worthiness issues consistently scaling his business, he replied: “Worthiness? I’m a hard-working, thoughtful advisor with a great network.”

Amanda went from being a suicidal, alcoholic 20-something in her native Australia to a three-time CrossFit Games World Champion in her late 30’s. When I asked her whether she had ever had any worthiness issues about her remarkable turnaround in life, she told me: “I was willing to run the hard yards. When I thought I couldn’t go on, I just did the next most important thing. I just kept turning up. I’ve been constantly testing and pushing and exploring my capacities to discover that there’s a bedrock in me which is graft!””

The moral of the story is this: many high performers are at peace with their outstanding accomplishments because they are hard workers, they know it, and that’s good enough for them!

Worthiness Key 2: Tell yourself this: “If not me, then who?”

Many years ago, I coached a disability insurance specialist called Corey. He was very uncomfortable about asking people in his network for referrals. I suggested he think on paper about why others should refer him.

He listed off numerous reasons, then I asked him if he got anything from the exercise. He thought about it and said: “I’m not sure, but I did come to the conclusion: ‘If not me, then who?’ I mean someone’s going to get the business; it might as well be me.”
Every time I would talk to Corey, he would make the same comment: “But you know what, Matt? If not me, then who?” It took me three months to notice how often he said this until it occurred to me to point this out to him. He said he had written this phrase on a Post It note, put it on the cover of his work planner, and would look at it several times a day.

He literally rewired his thinking to give himself permission to keep asking and it made an enormous difference to his business and the number of people he was able to help – and it has every year since.

This is a common high achiever mindset, and it is not arrogant. It doesn’t say “I’m better than everyone else.” It simply asserts that you can be as helpful as anyone else, so you might as well speak up and ask for that introduction!

Worthiness Key 3: Filter the doubt out of your mind as fast as you can

Stacy grew up poor and ‘second-class’ as an African American in the Jim Crow south of the US and has been a multi-millionaire financial advisor for the past three decades. When I asked him whether he had ever had any worthiness issues, he acted as if the word didn’t exist in his vocabulary! How did he do that?

Amanda the CrossFit Games World Champion told me what she had learned from spending an increasing amount of time with other high performers: don’t give airtime to whether you are worthy or not: “Most people bang around life not really realizing that thoughts aren’ t facts. Feelings aren’t facts. I heard it a decade ago and it was a revelation to me because I was a slave to my thoughts. I filter out what is rubbish and what are lies.”

Vincent grew up poor and remained that way until he committed suicide at the age of 37 (what a tragedy!). Despite being completely unappreciated in his lifetime, he is now considered one of the greatest artists who ever lived. In a letter to his brother Theo, Van Gogh acknowledged that he was worthy of success: “I do not think I am aiming too high. I will make drawings that will amaze some people.”

Then he noted what it took: “Art requires resolute and unremitting industry …constant industry, as also the power of maintaining one’s own point of view against the assertions of others.”

In other words, listen to the voice in your head that wants you to do great work, not the naysayers in your world nor the voice in your own head talking you out of it. You need enough self-belief to keep you in the game and to remind you that you’re at least as good as others.

The message is clear: find a mindset that affirms that you are good enough to reach greater heights and silence any voice that tries to talk you out of it.

I’ve spent most of my life challenged by whether I’m good enough for this or that and my heart goes out to all those who have had the same mental battles. You can spend your whole life trying to feel good enough and never actually feel it. There is a long laundry list of things you can do that will help. The easier route is to learn from what high achievers do and do the same: Do the work, know you’re as good as anyone else, and filter out the unempowering thoughts so you can get on with doing what you were put on this earth to do: make a positive difference.

To being good enough!
Matt Anderson
Founder & President
Matt Anderson International
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Phone: +001 (312) 622-3121

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